you have something in your teeth.....

"I wonder what Piglet is doing" thought Pooh. "I wish I was there doing it too."

How many of you have true friends? You know.. the ones that will tell you when you have something on your face... or answer the phone when they see your number on the caller ID at 3am?

Better yet... how about friends that just KNOW when things aren't right by the sound of your voice or look in your eyes? Then they laugh at you and tell you to suck it up?

As we go through life, we all encounter many friends. Through it all, I've learned that friendship isn't about being friendly. It's not about being trustworthy. It's the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful... then you are a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things....then it's something other than friendship.

Friendship is not a state of mind. It's an act. It's something you do; it's not whether you're good or not, it's not a reflection of you, it's a balanced relationship between people. True friendship is perhaps the only relation that survives the trials and tribulations of time and remains unconditional. It's a unique blend of affection, love, loyalty, trust and loads of fun. It's a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. You never have to weigh your thoughts and measure words. It's when someone knows you better than yourself and is at your side no matter what the crisis. Friendship is eternal.

Why do I write about this today? Well.... simply put.... I have some really great friends. A lot of us spent time together this weekend.... and the feeling was like when you come home after a long day.... and sink into the couch with your feet up..... comfortable. It's fun to have people to laugh with... laugh at.... or laugh about. All in front of each other, of course.

So, when you look at the people around you, think to yourself.... "Friendship is __________." I bet your answers are diverse with each and every one. But ask yourself THIS question. Are YOU a good friend?" Do you listen? Are you trustworthy? Are you selfless? Are you there when they need you, not just when you need something from them? Are you happy for their successes? Do you accept them for what they are?

I once gave a card to one of my best friends.... and it still rings true today. "If I you live to be 100, I hope to live to be 100 minus 1 day so I never have to live without you." (That Winnie the Pooh... he's so smart! ?)

Happy Birthday to a dear friend... :)